Here are some of my recommendations
Beyond couples counseling or individual counseling, I recommend other resources to help you build better relationships.
Books I Recommend
These book recommendations are helpful for those needing support with a difficult marriage, divorce recovery, trauma and healing, or other relationship issues.
- Boundaries. Henry Cloud, Ph.D and John Townsend, Ph.D
- Disarming The Past. Jerry Lewis, M.D. and John Gossett, Ph.D
- The Courage to Heal. Laura Davis
- The Bridge to I Am. Ellie Izzo, Ph.D.
- Destructive Relationships. by Jill Murray, Ph.D.
- Healing The Shame That Binds You. John Bradshaw, M.A.
- Divorce Busting. –Making marriage loving again. Michele Weiner-Davis, M.S.W
- Surviving Infidelity. Rona Subotnik, LMFT and Gloria Harris, Ph.D
- Sexual Detours. Holly Hein, Ph.D.
- We Love Each Other But… Ellen Wachtel, Ph.D
- Surviving The Breakup. Judith Wallerstein, Ph.D
- Sex and Love. Robert Firestone, Ph.D
- Fear of Intimacy. Robert Firestone, Ph.D
- I Can’t Get Over It. – A Handbook for Trauma Survivors. Aphrodite Matsakis, Ph.D. Specialist in Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD).
- Who do you think it was, that needed to be loved in the first place?
- Realize and recognize the goodness and beauty that is already within you just by the very nature of being a human being.
- Remember to breath, to stay centered and to be balanced.
- All states of consciousness are available right now.
- You can decide to let go right now, without knowing how right now.
- We don’t pick our parents but we do pick our friends.
- When you forgive, it is always for your benefit first. It is your choice to let go.
- What you give yourself, dies with you. What you do and give for others, lives forever.
- The past was in the past. It just was. Without judgment on it, what will I decide to learn from it? That is the choice I have today.
- The best argument is no argument.
- Symptoms are to be utilized and learned from, not numbed.
- The therapeutic alliance/relationship is often the therapy.
- Your wonderful ability to love another does not come from them. It comes from inside of you.
- Attitude and perception allow experience to be negotiable. It is the art of mental reframing